People Pleaser by Princess Adebola Paulina
Don't be a People Pleaser 1
©Princess Adebola Paulina
Shade is a very Beautiful lady, Descent and M
odest, She's a purposeful lady but lack one thing "Learning to SAY NO".
No wonder when different men comes her way, she don't want to dissapoint them thereby accepting their proposal. How many man will she now have in her life?
A friend of her's once came to her that she want them to visit a man together during the time she wanted to go for bible study.
She actually don't want to go but because of the ice cream the friend use to give her
She decided to follow her but when coming back home, Something bad happen.
She cried bitterly because his father hasn't beat her far back 10 years ago
Why then is it happening now?
This is what happen to everyone who love to say Yes when they suppose to say No
Knowing when to say No especially to loved ones is an art which a leader should cultivate.
Learning not to please everyone is very important and that's a step to your growth.
A people pleaser help get other people work done, cater for their needs and leaving hers undone
They are the nicest and the most caring people on earth. You can always count on them for a FAVOR.
Fear of Rejection is actually what makes many to be pleasing people
If I don't help out, they might leave me.
They neglect their own well being and take care of others
doing unnecessary things at the expense of yourself when you're not yet balanced is wrong.
Half of the troubles of this life can be traced back to saying “yes” too quickly and not saying “no” soon enough. – Josh Billings
Saying NO its very difficult but it is part of been disciplined
When you say NO to people, You're saying YES to things that matters most in your lives.
Overtime, Saying No means you love yourself and you've built your set worth to some estent, Saying No means you've set boundaries that this is what I am and what is needed to be done, should be done
Though all this might be very difficult for your friends and family, but overtime, They will adapt and know you for who you're and this is where respect comes in
Saying NO means that you are choosing to keep your life balanced.
Doing the right thing at the right time, Focussing on your life and making sure all is well, You can't give what you don't have, You need to balance your life before helping others.
How to Say NO
1. Learn how to delay your response: when a request is made, It isn't compulsory you answer immediately. Telling the person you will get back to them as soon as possible isn't too bad. In Nelson Mandela biography, " He wrote that his answer is always " Let me think about it, at the end, He will not tell you want you want to hear because you want to hear it
2. Always Ask Question :
Before you say YES to anything, it’s important to ask yourself question, Remember, when you are saying No, You're saying YES to something important.
You need to ask yourself some basic Question
If I said YES, what am I saying NO to?
What am I suppose to do now?
Willthis not affect my schedule?
Most of the time, Saying YES takes a lot of commitment and responsibilities
But are you saying yes to the right thing at the right time, you need to ask Question
3. Know how to say NO
Saying NO doesn't mean you have to be so Proud and you leave others emotionally deflated, No! There are ways to which you can say NO and you won't hurt others
E.g I am very grateful that ______________ but I am very sorry I won't be _____ if there's any other way to support you to get this done, I will be of help
Not necessary if you know you won't be chanced so its not compulsory you give alternative.
Practice saying NO so that the person you are speaking to isn’t confused and thinks you will say yes later. Give a brief but clear reason for saying no, and be honest rather than using an excuse.
It's okay to consider the feelings and thoughts of people who matter to us. But we should also understand that we cannot please everyone at the same time. Do what's best for you! Do what gives you peace, a clear conscience, and makes you happy.
Izey Victoria Odiase
Watchout for the part 2
©Princess Adebola Paulina
Princessadebolapaulina@gmail.com
We will continue From here Next week.
For Question/Clarification and counselling
Message Princess 08137700063
©Princess Adebola Paulina
Shade is a very Beautiful lady, Descent and M
No wonder when different men comes her way, she don't want to dissapoint them thereby accepting their proposal. How many man will she now have in her life?
A friend of her's once came to her that she want them to visit a man together during the time she wanted to go for bible study.
She actually don't want to go but because of the ice cream the friend use to give her
She decided to follow her but when coming back home, Something bad happen.
One day,She was to do a work which his father ask him to do and its very important that was when a neighbour called her to help him fixed something,As she want to proof how Good she was and how well mannered she's brought up, She quickly went ahead to help the neighbor which took a lot of time.
Yes, she was appreciated for the service rendered but on getting home, she receive the very slap on her face from her father in front of her younger ones.She cried bitterly because his father hasn't beat her far back 10 years ago
Why then is it happening now?
This is what happen to everyone who love to say Yes when they suppose to say No
Knowing when to say No especially to loved ones is an art which a leader should cultivate.
Learning not to please everyone is very important and that's a step to your growth.
A people pleaser help get other people work done, cater for their needs and leaving hers undone
They are the nicest and the most caring people on earth. You can always count on them for a FAVOR.
Fear of Rejection is actually what makes many to be pleasing people
If I don't help out, they might leave me.
They neglect their own well being and take care of others
doing unnecessary things at the expense of yourself when you're not yet balanced is wrong.
Half of the troubles of this life can be traced back to saying “yes” too quickly and not saying “no” soon enough. – Josh Billings
Saying NO its very difficult but it is part of been disciplined
When you say NO to people, You're saying YES to things that matters most in your lives.
Overtime, Saying No means you love yourself and you've built your set worth to some estent, Saying No means you've set boundaries that this is what I am and what is needed to be done, should be done
Though all this might be very difficult for your friends and family, but overtime, They will adapt and know you for who you're and this is where respect comes in
Saying NO means that you are choosing to keep your life balanced.
Doing the right thing at the right time, Focussing on your life and making sure all is well, You can't give what you don't have, You need to balance your life before helping others.
How to Say NO
1. Learn how to delay your response: when a request is made, It isn't compulsory you answer immediately. Telling the person you will get back to them as soon as possible isn't too bad. In Nelson Mandela biography, " He wrote that his answer is always " Let me think about it, at the end, He will not tell you want you want to hear because you want to hear it
2. Always Ask Question :
Before you say YES to anything, it’s important to ask yourself question, Remember, when you are saying No, You're saying YES to something important.
You need to ask yourself some basic Question
If I said YES, what am I saying NO to?
What am I suppose to do now?
Willthis not affect my schedule?
Most of the time, Saying YES takes a lot of commitment and responsibilities
But are you saying yes to the right thing at the right time, you need to ask Question
3. Know how to say NO
Saying NO doesn't mean you have to be so Proud and you leave others emotionally deflated, No! There are ways to which you can say NO and you won't hurt others
E.g I am very grateful that ______________ but I am very sorry I won't be _____ if there's any other way to support you to get this done, I will be of help
Not necessary if you know you won't be chanced so its not compulsory you give alternative.
Practice saying NO so that the person you are speaking to isn’t confused and thinks you will say yes later. Give a brief but clear reason for saying no, and be honest rather than using an excuse.
It's okay to consider the feelings and thoughts of people who matter to us. But we should also understand that we cannot please everyone at the same time. Do what's best for you! Do what gives you peace, a clear conscience, and makes you happy.
Izey Victoria Odiase
Watchout for the part 2
©Princess Adebola Paulina
Princessadebolapaulina@gmail.com
We will continue From here Next week.
For Question/Clarification and counselling
Message Princess 08137700063
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